Hey Everyone, I was just reading over some of my old posts, and I decided to repost my article entitled Diamod Girl or Fake Pearl. I hope it re-inspires those who have already read it, and for those who haven't I hope that it inspires you to take this journey of reflection and beauty.
Diamonds are a girl’s best friend, and most girls would rather have a genuine 1 carat diamond ring set in platinum or gold, than to be handed a beautiful, yet fake strand of pearls?
The reason diamonds are the most valued and sought after jewels is because of the uniqueness of each stone, and how rare they are. Did you realize that no two diamonds are the same. It takes years of patience and perfect timing to harvest diamonds from the earth so that they can be turned into prize pieces of jewelry.
We as women are supposed to be like diamonds, highly sought after, yet hard to obtain; but in today’s culture many women have forgotten the power that God has given us. The power of our femininity and sexuality. Many women today have become easy for men to obtain, and objectified for sexual conquests. We see the girl in the music video, or in the magazine, and think I want men to want me just like her. Some women think that the more skin they show, or the sexier they look, the more male attention they will attract, but what they don’t realize is that when men see how sexy they are dressed, they automatically put them in a box. Box A is the Potential Wife Material box, and Box B is This Girl Is Easy box. As Sherry Argov puts it” ...When he sees you scantily dressed, he is not reminded of how great you look naked. He immediately thinks of all the other men you’ve slept with.”; (Why Men Marry B**ches pg.19)Research has shown, that although men will break their necks to look at the girl who is barley dressed, they are more intrigued by the woman who is subtly sexy, or not flaunting her sexuality openly. The mystery of what jewels lie beneath, makes them want to take the time to get to know her better.
Women need to wake up and realize that we hold the power to have society respect us in the way that we want, this is an even greater responsibility to those women who profess to be Christians. The power that we seek begins with us, and the image that we create for ourselves through our choice of clothing, our attitude, our words, and our actions.
I am challenging YOU, for the next 30 days to deeply reflect on the choice of clothing that you make, why you are choosing to wear the clothes that you wear, and how your choices affect the way you are treated. If you wear low cut shirts, and love showing your cleavage (as I used to LOVE to do), cover the “girls” up. Wear short skirts? Try wearing them knee length. I challenge you NOT to openly flaunt your sexuality with your clothing for the next 30 days. Try being creative with your clothing with a focus on looking feminine and classy, instead of sexy, or sexy and trashy (which is the worst combination). Let people, especially men see that you are a diamond (because they can easily tell a diamond from a fake pearl), because of your mind and special talents that God gave to you, not because you have big breasts, big butts, or shapely thighs.