Modest & Sexy????? A Contradiction

Not too long ago on Facebook, one of my Facebook friends, and sister in Islam, posted a reply after being attacked about a post stating that she had bought a pair of skinny jeans. Many women attacked her saying that it is inappropriate for a Muslim woman to wear skinny jeans.

Now let's keep a few things in perspective. Number one, this woman wears hijab (for those of you who don't know hijab is the Islamic headscarf), and wears it properly, covering  herself they way she needs to be covered (Islamicaly). Number two, this woman is married, and I believe has at least two children.

Besides my hating judgemental people, my other pet peeve (other than rudeness and inconsideration), are people who are too extreme. On one hand a woman can be to loose and out there, have absolutely no restraint about how she conducts herself, dress wise or other wise, but on the other hand you have the woman who is modest, but so modest that she can't allow herself to be ultra sexy and feminine when appropriate. Both are wrong in my humble opinion.

I am of the belief that every woman should have a pair of skinny jeans, mini skirt, halter top, some daisy duke shorts and a little black dress ......TO WEAR AT HOME FOR HER HUSBAND. Think logically for a moment. Unfortunately, your husband is out all day looking at,working,and dealing with women, most of whom do not have a problem showing a little thigh, cleavage, or butt. Then he comes home to you and your dressed like a nun,  hair a mess...you get the picture. Ladies this is a man's worst nightmare, and even if he is a man of Allah (God in Arabic language) and understands why you choose to dress modestly (outside the home), he is still a man, and wants to be excited by the woman that he has to come home to until he dies. The prophet (PBUH) has said "All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with.  Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband." And we should do just that.

We should not be afraid to embrace our feminine sexuality. I know that this is sometimes difficult for women who are very religious or have been taught that being sexy is bad or dirty. Our sexuality is beautiful and a gift from Allah/God, it is nothing to be ashamed of  and should always be used appropriately and responsibly.

On a side note, us Modest Fashionistas, shouldn't use wearing hijab, or dressing modestly as an excuse or reason to stay out of shape (I am guilty of this, and am changing). We should strive everyday to eat right, exercise and be in the absolute best shape ever, for ourselves first, and also for our husbands and family.

The art of being a feminine woman, and using our feminine wiles  has become lost for the most part. Modesty IS important, but a woman shouldn't lose her sexy side just because she choose to dress modest in public. Remember balance is key in every aspect of life.