You Attract Who You Are

Life is this sometimes strange mirad of experiences and people who come and go. Sometimes in life we sit and wonder "Why does it seem as though I keep going through the same thing over and over again?". Being creatures of habit, we repeat the same behaviors that bring forth the exact same results, and attract the same type people into our lives.

I truly believe that every person comes into your life for a reason, and a seaon of time. Sometimes it is only for a very short period of time, but people come into our lives to teach us lessons about ourselves, so that we can reach the next level of concious exsistence. This could not be more true when it comes to our romantic and sexual relationships.

If you believe that there is an unseen spiritual realm, then you will understand that we attract kindred spirits. That on a subconcious level we attract people who have similar issues that we have.I used to be like many women, going out with friends to clubs, bars, concerts, and what not. Sometimes I was on the prowl to find a date, sometimes I was not even thinking of meeting anyone, but no matter what it always seemed like I would meet the same jerk in a different shirt. I used to always ask myself "Why?, Why!,Why?!,Why?!!!" I just couldn't understand. It wasn't until I moved to Miami, and found myself involved with a very munipulative, abusive person, that it made me really want to understand what was going on with me, that I was accepting this kind of behavior. I mean I was putting up with things that were sometimes so down right embarrasing that I wouldn't even tell my friends or family what was going on. I started really praying for God to help me through this situation, and help me to love me, because the logical part of my mind, knew that the relationship that I was in wasn't healthy, but the irrational part of me was deeply attracted to this person, and I had to find out why. During this time I read a really great book that was instrumental in helping me to help myself to discover what was going on. That book was In The Meantime by Inyala Vanzant.

In her book she stated just what I am discussing with you today, and that is that you attract who you are. At first I rejected that, because I was a nice, sweet, kind person, and I couldn't see how I was anything like this man, who had to be related to the devil in some fashion or form. What I realized is that I was desperate to have attention, didn't have self esteem,didn't know how to set boundries or limits, and that along the way I had believed that there were no good men left, and so I had to take what I could get( The atleast I have a man attitude). This left me open to attract men, and women, who were users, and abusers, who also suffered from low self-esteem. Also with me being abused as a child and my family history of drug and alchol abuse, even though I didn't do drugs or drink, I would manage to attract men who were drug abusers or alcholics, or both.

All my life, even when I was a child, people would try to take advantage of me. Borrow money, not pay it back, lie, cheat , steal from me, you name it, it happened. Somewhere in life I lost my power, my voice to say NO,I won't allow you to treat me like that! I love ME, I think I'm worthy, and beautiful, and a child of God, and I deserve to be treated with respect. When I realized that, I set out on a mission to heal my heart, to heal my subconcious mind, so that I would emmit an energy that would naturally attract like minded, spirited people. With God
s help, I have learned how to recalim my power, stand up to people( because people will still try you),and I have noticed that the people that I attract are different. I am married now, but when I was dating I noticed that when I changed my thoughts about myself, and men, I started attracting men with JOBS, not on drugs, that were for the most part normal.

One thing you must realize, until you stop to heal you, love you, you WILL keep attracting the same people and situations until you GET the life lesson that is being presented to you. What I have noticed in life, is that most people go through this physical existence unconcious, they go through the motions of living. They go through the same experiences over and over, sometimes without a second thought. Sometimes people go through there whole lives without growing conciously, spiritualy, and they die, broken spirited, broken hearted people, because they never took the time to try to understand that life lessons were trying to pusch them into their fullest potential. I decided a few years ago, I decided to live like conciously, knowing that whenever I was presented with circumstances or people who didn't fit into my "dream" life, that I needed to stop, pray, observe, and learn, what it was that God was trying to teach me about me, so that I could/can quickly move on.

If you find yourself on an unpleasent merry-go-round I challenge you to stop and pray, meditate, on why this could be happening. What you may need to learn in order not to repeat the negative experiences. You can have the life that you want, it will take work (I'm still working at it), but it is a reachable goal. Live conciously!

Sometimes It gets hard

I seriously thought the "Hoochie" in me was dead and gone, but there have been a few times this week, where I felt as though her spirit was lingering around. I sometimes look at women dressed more like "Fake Pearls" than "Diamond Girls", and I actually find myself feeling envious, if that's even the appropriate word.I mean I look was looking at a woman that came into the salon where I work, and she had a really cute shape, a tube top on, bangin high heel shoes, and some stretch jeans, and a beautiful necklace, and I actually found myself saying well that outfit is kind of cute, and having nostalgic memories of my former days when I used to go out of the way to show off my curves. Sometimes I feel that I am in the struggle to be a Modest Fashionista all by myself. Do you all ever feel like that? Am I in this alone, or is there anyone out there that feels me. I am realizing, in more areas than one, in my life, that taking the high road is difficult and lonely at times. It is not easy having, and maintianing standards.

Eliza Magazine

If you dont't know already, then you should know,that is about Eliza Magazine. Eliza is the "Vogue" magazine for the modest fashionista. Contemporary, thought provoking, and just plain entertaining. I am personally elated that someone has recognized that most women don't want to see other women half naked on every other page that they turn, and the fact that they make a concious effort to use real women and professional models, make me just want to had out a subscribtion notice to every woman I see. If you want a guide to beautiful clothes,and thought provoking articles then you absolutely must read.

Passing Out Pamphlets

If you are interested in passing out "The 30 Day Modesty Challenge" pamphlets in your area, school, or church, please email me with your mailing information and let me know. The pamphlets are free of charge, and absolutley NO cost to you. All you need is a willing heart to spread the news of this important message that is so crucial for women today.

Just Some Random Thoughts

Ok, so this morning I was talking to my mother in regards to christian living, and things like that. I was telling her that the older I get the more I realize that the bible is actually simple, but we make it hard when we start trying to make justifications why we should or shouldn't do things. As it relates to the topic of modesty, I believe that as women of God, regardless of age, we have taken the topic of modesty too lightly. I go to church, and I see some girls and women in some very questionable clothing. For the ones under the age of 18, in my mind i'm thinking, "What's wrong with this girls parents, that they would allow their daughter to come to church dressed like that?". I believe that we (christians) have gone so far over in left field as far as god accepts you as you are (which is true), and we shouldnt judge(which is true we can't judge someones heart), that we totally think it's ok to just not grow spiritually, and bring mainstream society inside ourlives and the church. we are supposed to counter the culture in a positive way, that people will see how great it is to live God's way of life that they want to be apart of what we are doing. I hope in some small way that this movement really resounds with Chrisitan women world wide, to be the leaders in the area of modest dress, and the fact that it is not cool to show off your breast, or how shapley your butt is, or how toned your legs are. Show other non-chrisitan women, what really beauty is, and how to achieve it.

The 10 Commandments of Modesty

1.) Have fun.....Modest Fashion doesn't have to be boring!
2.) Clothing should cover areas of the body considered sensual or sexually stimulating. (Breasts, Thighs, Butt, Shoulders,etc.)
3.)Material should not be tight or see through
4.)Backs should be modest. Avoid, strappless, halter, or backless garments
5.)Remeber that you are a lady, and that your dress should refelct your dignity.
6.)First impressions are lasting, Make it Count!
7.Experiment with Color, Textures, Scarves, and Layering.
8.)Undergarments are just that, UNDER-garments
9.)We have a responsibility to our Christian Brothers to help them with their battle with LUST!
10.)Always reflect on what you wear and the real reason you are wearing it.

Holiday Fashion Challenge!!!!!!!

Ok Ladies, the holidays are coming, and it will be your chance to shine like the "Diamond Girl" that you are. The top 3 Best Yet Modestly Dressed, will win a 72 pieces Makeup Kit. Have Fun with it, see how you can create outfits from regular stores and become a Modest Fashionista!

Rules:
1. Must email photos of you wearing 3 different Modest Outfits,what stores you bought your clothes at, and your name,email address, and mailing address to themodestymovement@gmail.com by Dec. 31, 2009 11pm EST
2. Have Fun and Be Creative

3.Modest Fashions must atleast cover Breasts, Legs(meaning entire thigh part of the leg ), Shoulders, and not expose the back. As a rule of thumb the dresses or skirts that you choose must be lose enough to show you have class, but can be fitting enough to show your a woman (hope that small guideline helps)
4. This contest is open to all women regardless of age, race, ethnicity, or religion